I like to begin class with a Q/A. Q/A is a question, or an idea to be explored. Here is an example:
Nobody plans to ruin their life. However, people do ruin their life because they didn’t plan NOT to ruin their life. It about the choices we make when we are young, naive, foolish and/or inexperienced.
Q/A: Your plan is to ruin your life. What habits/attitudes/choices will successfully get the job done—a ruined, unhappy miserable life.
TEACHER NOTE: possible answers to add to the discussion.
1. I’m going to do what I want.—- that usually means, ignore the advice of older more experienced people who want the best for you. Older experienced people is code for they did stupid stuff when they were young. So, they know the consequences.
2. I’m going to spend money faster than I make it. I’m going to owe everyone. —-there are 2 types of people: people who earn interest and people who pay interest. You don’t want to pay interest. It’s expensive Check out the interest rates on those credit cards. OR. People with poor proven credit history have to pay for high risk loans. The bank may not loan them money to buy a car. As a result they buy their car at Buy Here, Pay Here Used Car Lots where interest rates are 20 to 24%. (Don’t blame the car lot. Your credit rating is a loud and clear warning to anyone who loans you money– there is a good chance you never get your money back.)
3. I’m going to find an addiction that is absolutely perfect for me.— alcohol, shopping/credit cards, pornography, gambling, watching sports, drugs-marijuana, opioids etc. Addictions destroy relationships, personal happiness and freedom.
4. My best friends are just like me. We like the same things, think the same way, and talk the same way. We support each others bad habits.
5. I am the center of the universe. It’s all about me. In short, I’m very selfish, self centered and have a huge sense of entitlement.
6. I’m all about immediate gratification. I see it, I want it now. I’m not future oriented. I’m not planning on being anything or accomplishing anything, so it doesn’t really matter what I do today.
7. It’s never my fault. I figure, if it’s not my fault, I don’t ever have to accept any form of correction. You can try to correct me, but my fingers will be in my ears while I repeat over and over “I don’t hear you”. I don’t even care if you fire me. Being a victim gives me permission to continue to do what doesn’t work. Then, I can be bitter tooooo.
Q/A: What’s the difference between a person who plans to ruin their life and a person who doesn’t plan NOT to ruin their life.
It would be interesting if your students admit to any of the the seven.
I use a Q/A at the beginning of class as: