I like to begin class with a Q/A. A Q/A is a question or an idea to be explored. Here is an example:
Q/A: Where does anger fit in your life?
Anger is a strong feeling of intense displeasure, hostility as a result of a real or imagined threat, insult, frustration or injustice toward yourself or others important to you. It is a destructive emotion that affects a person physically, emotionally and destroys relationships because it makes you want to lash out and hurt someone.
Are you an angry person?
Do you live in an angry family? (You are very careful not to upset someone living in your home )
Are your friends easily angered?
Do you work around angry people during your school day? (Sometimes teachers do because they don’t want to set off a student, teacher, parent or administrator. Sometimes students walk an alternative path to class to avoid certain hallways. It’s wise to avoid angry people. Anger creates more anger and leads to foolishness.
What can you do about anger?
1. Identify if the anger is good anger—(which is anger toward those who are mistreating others/somebody else. The mistreating behavior needs to be corrected. This kind of anger is controlled, has a purpose and is justified. It is never selfish.) or bad anger.
bad anger — is all about ME, I want control so I will criticize you, throw a fit, say or do something hurtful. There doesn’t even have to be a justifiable reason for this anger. I’m just angry and you are the vessel I pour it out on. As a result relationships are broken; people avoid each other and/or never speak to each other again.
2. We are responsible for discovering what is there that is causing this destructive anger. Many times it is something that happened in the past or is currently happening now and the person doesn’t know where or who they can go to for help.
3. You can not live with this anger and be a healthy happy person.
4. You have to be willing to acknowledge what it is. I was rejected….., I am being bullied by….. I don’t have any friends, No one likes me……..etc. Whatever it is, write it down——I’m angry because……..
5. Only you can control your anger. You have to deal with it. Excusing it or blaming someone else doesn’t work.
6. Let is go, replace it with something good. Run, clean your room, play the guitar, rake the leaves, wash your car. DO something good, BE something good.
How I use the Q/A: