Life is a Choice — Here is a selction of 5 minute activities where students copy the advice and compose two to three sentences why they agree or disagree (just pick a thought for the day).
1. No is a complicated word. “No” can mean “No”. Sometimes “No” means “Not yet”. Sometimes “No” means “Too soon”. Sometimes “No” means “Keep trying and / or Maybe Yes”. No is a complicated word.
2. People can’t control what they get in life or in relationships; people can only control what they give.
• When a person focuses on what they are or are not getting, it’s either not going to be enough or what they want. The predictable consequence is frustration, unhappiness, anger etc. So, to get what they want, there is an effort to control people / situations. The controlee is going to resist the controller, and there my friends you have a relationship problem.
3. People who really love other people — focus on the others delight more than their own gift. I want to give someone what they really need / want; my joy is I gave that to you, it is my contribution to the relationship. Each person contributes gifts in a functional relationship; they work together.
4. A Dysfunctional relationship — is when I give, and give — and you take, and you take. AND/ OR I got something and you really want — and if you want it, this is what you have to do. Run away from this type of relationship.
5. In Life there are two things to remember:
a. When alone take care of your thoughts; they lead to feelings and predictable actions.
b. When you are with people, take care of your words. You can’t take them back.
6. You can find negative people everywhere you go. The last thing in the world you want to do is talk to them, because all they’re going to do is cement pessimism (negativity) in you! If you listen to them, you will talk like them, and then begin to think like them and if you are not careful be just like them.
7. Whatever your business / job / goal / school activity is — do not hang around people who failed at it. Do not take guidance from people who failed at it — unless they, at some point, succeeded.
8. Everybody who fails is bitter, and failures often blame everybody else. It’s difficult but don’t blame other people for your mistakes / failures. Once you own your failure, you can learn from it and then move on to………..
9. The fascinating thing about Negativity / Pessimism is… It’s magnetic. It’s easy. We all can do it. We don’t need to read books on how to be pessimists. We don’t need guidance on how to think negatively.
10. We do need guidance on how to think positively. People that write books on how to do that are multimillionaires.
11. Make it a rule — I’m only going to talk / or try to talk to people who have succeeded. They know the impossible (improbable) can be done because they have done it or participated in it having been done.
12. If you think you are a victim, you will always be a victim. If you think you are successful, you will find a way to be successful. Life is a choice.
13. Don’t get sucked into a JERK contest. You just might win. Let the other person be the JERK; don’t do or say anything that will take the spotlight off THE JERK. (JERK — a contemptibly obnoxious person).
14. People may never say anything, but they will have an opinion on, what they saw you do, or just heard you say. Ten years later when you run into each other, you / they will remember your / their opinion.
15. Never ever say My Bad. My bad, is not a replacement for I’m sorry I did…..or I take responsibility for . . . . My bad trivializes careless words, mistakes and poor judgement. We all make mistakes; an apology demands at least a complete sentence and sincerity.
16. Saying to a child / student good job is like an administrator saying to a teacher Thank You for everything you do. A Thank You for everything is the same as a thank you for nothing; it’s meaningless and is an indication the person has NNOOO clue what you did or what you do. A real compliment focuses on a real accomplishment. The words should reflect recognition and appreciation for what a person did and continues to do.
17. Give others the benefit of the doubt, the support and consideration you would want to be given. In other words, be as generous in judging the actions of others as we tend to be when judging our own actions.
18. To get out of poverty, graduate from high school, get a job, have your children after you get married. If you really, really want to get out of poverty, graduate from high school, get a job, have your children after you get married and go to church every Sunday. The magic potion or lottery ticket is your behavior.
• Google: “To get out of poverty, graduate from high school, get a job” — you will see 2 pages going back to 2003 full of articles documenting this.