Life was simpler when I was young. We knew boys / men were different than girls / women, each had their separate roles in life, the cultural and religious moral code was similar, so there were culturally agreed upon expectations and standards. We did not have a health class. I did see a video explaining the male and reproductive system in Biology and I didn’t pay attention. I was 16 and totally uninterested. Yet, we knew what the current generation has absolutely no clue about.
Here is a great activity for health classes. Project each sentence one by one on your screen/white board for your students to unpack what each sentence means — this can be a class discussion, an individual written assignment or an assignment where each student has a partner they can discuss them and then write.
In civilized societies, women run the show because it is women who have the power to say NO.
That is why guys developed great persuasion skills.
Women used to say NO and guys expected girls to say NO; because that is what girls used to say (unless they were drunk — which was part of the persuasion strategy).
Guys use to chase girls and girls got to choose. Guys chased the best girls, tested their level of confidence and self-respect.
A confident girl with self-respect said NO. Why?
Here is a relatable story from Dear Abby: Miss willing to do anything:
I’ve fallen in love with a self-made entrepreneur who is intelligent, witty, totally amazing….
Because of who he is “women throw themselves at him”…….
I love him and want him all too myself. . . .
Because he never had success with women before he became a man of statue and position, he is prone to seduction. . . .
All those other women don’t mean anything to him and he wants to be with me. . .
I’ve tried to up my game in the bedroom. . . .
(Guys know girls make decisions based what they hear — and she heard what she wanted to hear and she has upped her game (see Reality of life #3 where you will see the definition of a dysfunctional relationship in the article “Here Are Tested Ways to Teach Students More Than Simple Sex Ed”)
At the end of the story, Miss willing to do anything wants to know why he won’t commit to her (code for marry her)?
Abby has one answer and I have another politically incorrect answer.
Read the entire story (project onto the board) and ask your students questions. You will find the complete story http://www.sfgate.com/entertainment/article/Dear-Abby-Now-that-he-s-rich-he-wants-to-sleep-10640400.php .
Class Discussion: You know your class — this works with students in small groups or regular class seating.
Miss willing to do anything is why I always teach a What is Love Unit (decision making is a whole lot easier if you know who LOVES you) and the Difference between Men and Women Unit (refer back to Teacher Note ) before I teach Sex ED. I expect teens to not to understand / know things because of their age and inexperience, but this was an adult woman. She has NO idea; he has no plans to commit to her. Why should he? She is no different than the other woman lining up to impress him. Girls aren’t supposed to chase men. Sadly, they do on TV, in the movies etc., and that is where so many of our students are getting their relationship images.
What an adult woman should know and what a Sex Ed class doesn’t mention:
Miss willing to do anything doesn’t know her behavior identifies her as a commodity whose motto is. . . “Take me, use me, do whatever you want to me, and then exchange me in for another girl.”
Stories like this bother me. I did not want my daughters to be treated this way and I didn’t want my students treated that way. This is my effort to educate.